Thread:Monollama/@comment-15364483-20170402021128

Hi,

you said on your profile that you would be happy to answer questions about your sexuality or gender if someone would be curious. Turns out I am so I HOPE you'd be like a certain bear in holding your word - you needn't even execute yourself for it.

I am having a hard time understanding the gender-debate mostly because most information you casually find on the internet is in a more ridiculed than informative fashion and the few people that I did ask for clarification basically told me to "just google it". Which I did, grasping the basics (I hope), but it only gives you a few cold facts and not actual experiences from real people at least not with the amount of research I put in. Strolling through this wiki because Danganronpa is great I found the opportunity to be able to talk about this thematic with someone interested in answering (I hope). Because of my hard time understanding the issue some things may sound offensive and/or ignorant even if I don't mean them to, so I hereby appologize in advance.

So, questions:

How important is the pronoun-game? A natural reaction in talking with and about someone is to use the pronoun that feels most normal so mostly an assumption is made from their apparent sex. Turns out that the most ridiculed sentence is "Did you just assume my gender?" which, quite frankly, I understand. I mean if someone would ask me to use a different pronoun when I talk about him/her/others I would be slightly irritated but at least try to use them and I would grant him being annoyed about a miss-use after the mention, but attacking someone because of natural speech patterns without prior information input seems stupid to me. Is it as much a deal as the internet makes it out to be? Another thing is the pronoun 'they' for a single person: The only thing that comes to mind is the pluralis majestatis so it just seems like arrogance, at least to me. Wouldn't a gender-neutral-pronoun be 'it' instead or do I miss the reason for 'they' as a pronoun?

Next up is non-binary: From what I understand, non-binary means just neither male or female and is a catch-all kinda thing. That makes it weird in my eyes for someone to classify themselves as only non-binary like you openly did, because from what I grasp one can only have one gender from the wide range of non-binary options (or one is genderfluid which I would assume one would specify as well). Or is one not sure which category one belongs to when classifiying as non-binary? How is one even sure about one's gender? 